Lot of little ones out there don't have a dad who cares in their life, who provides and tried to keep them in their plans as a family. If you have one let them know it matters what they do even if it's just to show up when it matters or just be there. If he is one whos says I love you and good night every night, one who has little talks by themselves to try to get them to understand why things are the way they are, one who would kill over a child that's not his own but apart of his life and piece of his heart you better hang on tight because there isn't many.

If he gets on to them or corrects them even if it's more than he should, well that's him trying to be a dad and he may see thing different and more If a issue than you. If he's harder on one more than the other well that's him trying to be a dad and he thinks one needs more grounding.
Listen, It takes energy, time and lots of emotions for a true dad to get on to any child as it would be easier just not to give a shit and just let mom deal with it. But if you are a mom who has to say somethijng every time he corrects or make a decision with them or is hard on them you are the one fucking it up. You push them apart to leave no room for the beauty that may come to this child to have that in there life. You can't have both and you won't get both that way. Let a man who is in their life be that man.
Let dad be dad. Your with him for a reason and if he's still around then evidently his dad taught him well enough for you to keep him and he probably learned his ways of father from his own.
Remember this, while the family is havikng fun he is on guard, he fun is cut to 50% because he is always trying to work to pay bills,(god forbid he owns a business) worry about security, future, safety and just all around watching over his family. This is me. It's who I am and I was lucky to have a dad to just be there. He kept doors locked, fought for my rights when authorties were wrong and if you laid a hand on us he was at your door that night. He didn't buy shit hardly for us but Christmas was awesome but most of all he was just there. A dad. Some had none or ones that wasn't shit. I don't know what it would be like to not have him but I do know now just how hard it is to be that man and it is the hardest job in the world and no way is the right way but in the end I can say if I needed him he was already there. DressAfford magenta color apparel for bridesmaid
I am more an more like my dad everyday but i wish I could make the hard old school decisions he made because i know the man he raised me to be and what his words actions and demeanor did for us as a family. The more I listen to him the more I realize I'm talking to myself, he sees what I sees, he understands what I deal with but his way of dealing with things are to to tough.
He runs his house hold, he isn't undermined and if he is he destroys the whole situation. He was always tough but would hug you in a minute.
Let me sure this with you.
. He jacked me up in the bathroom for being 5 min late at 16 as I just shoved him off and walked by him as he said your late. I went to shut the bathroom door and it met his big hands and he grabbed me by my shirt jacked me up on the wall with my feet dangling and said buddy.. This is my house, but as i went to bed he still said i love you son. He put timers on my phone because I didn't get off at 9, he put timers hot water heater because my sister didn't listen about long hot showers we couldn't afford.. call it preventive measures I guess and I hated it
He took a hammer to my sisters christmas wrapped barbie doll for trying to open it after he said do not.
He took my brothers new bike and hid it for months in the attic because he told him to put it up or it might get stollen(made us keep them in the house) and then santa clause brought it back painted and tricked out for Christmas. I remember him crying and handing my brother the paddle he made as my brother was tellimg him " i love YOU daddy dont spank me" and my dad saying spank me son so you can feel how it hurts me to spank you.....
This at the time to me was terrible and I hated him at times but I realize it was the hardest things he had to do.
But today, my sister brother and I would catch a grenade for this man. He's just like his dad and I hope to God almighty I can only halfway follow in his shoes.
To the dad's that don't have to be but do with no lapse ......
YOU are a rare breed and deserve a woman who stands behind you wrong or right and helps you be the father you want to be, not what they expect you to be.